Wedding Tales

Not the excellent website http://weddingtales.co.uk/ where you can share and collate photos of your wedding (which is a great idea by the way), but the topic in general, a lot of people I know are either married, getting married, engaged or in a long term relationship or somewhere inbetween - and that’s great! I think people might be suprised to hear that I don’t mind hearing about this sort of thing - not all the time of course but I find I’m interested in what people are up to and just because it’s about wedding stuff doesn’t mean I’m any less so interested or I have to be “protected”.

In years gone by I wouldn’t really have had the chance to know anyone in this situation but with new people and new work comes more of this, in fact a lot more - if it really bothered me I’d have been driven daft by now! But I find I am interested - maybe because I’ve reached that age where you start caring about what other people are doing and I’m not as self-centred as I used to be. I think people get the wrong impression about what I think about all this and it’s time to set the record straight!

I don’t mind talk of engagements, weddings or anything relationshipwise at all when it comes up - what I don’t like is people trying to avoid it because they think I’m going to be bothered by it - I’m bothered by that thought. I do admit that sometimes I feel a little down when people talk about things like this - but my interest and seeing other people being happy is more important. I don’t want people to avoid expressing themselves, I don’t think this is happening with people I know but the odd thought about this probably has come up.

I know I’ve been single a long time and although it has come up recently again that I’m not really enjoying that so much it’s my reality and has been so for a very long time - I’ve been single longer than I’ve been in a couple by a long way, and remember how happy I was and don’t want to deny others that, even if I don’t have that myself I do appreciate that others do and don’t want to seem even more excluded from others as some form of protection.

I’ve found I’ve been quite happy to hear about people getting engaged or having children or just being in a relationship and see the changes it’s made in their life, it used to bother me when I didn’t think about it much for myself, but now I do - it doesn’t bother me, which is probably the wrong way round. I know I probably have made the position I’m in for myself and can’t really change that overnight - but what I do have is an appreciation for those around me and find that’s more important is to be surrounded by people I enjoy being with and know that they need not worry if they say something that will make me feel excluded if they mention a wife, partner or girlfriend - that isn’t the case, but of course I love to be the one talking about my relationships etc. if it came up - but there’s nothing to talk about, but if there is - that’s something I can share with the people I know, and if not I know they’ll be there and that’s what’s really important.